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Turning 40 Without a Child by WhyMe40

Posted on : 25-04-2010 | In : Family, Getting Closer, Something Missing |1,331 views

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Who would think of all people…me would be turning 40 without children. Not only was I raised to be a mother; I love children and that was my dream in life. A little background….The summer before I entered the 5th grade my parents became foster parents for infants. As a result I became a foster sister helping to raise over 300 babies from near birth to adoptions (usually between 3 and 6 months old).

I have been to fertility doctors and there is nothing wrong with me…I just can’t get or stay pregnant. Plus, I am a lesbian so I don’t get pregnant naturally and must go through a procedure to try. I am turning 40 on all days this year…..Mother’s day!!!! So, not only is it the worst day of the year…but it is my friggn birthday….

Everyone one wants to make a big deal out of me turning the Big 40….I could care less…..I would rather the day go by unnoticed….and when I say I want to skip it …. I am being selfish for not allowing people to celebrate my life and their love for me. How can I celebrate my life and be happy with my ultimate dream of being a mother will have basically ended on 5-9-2010.

I have thought about adopting but can’t afford and forster care in my state requires a stay at home parent. So….I have to figure out how to live one day at a time without my dream. My days are going to work and pretending everything is ok.

Has anyone ever noticed that this whole world is focused on babies and children? Try watching primetime tv, listen to the radio….go into any store…etc.

via: The Experience Project

  • Mary

    OMG. I am turning 40 on May 9, 2010 also.I never imagined someone else would be in the exact same situation as me. I really feel for you, really I do. I also lost my Mother so I am really hating mothers day , not having my Mom, not being a Mom and turning 40 all on the same day. I think thats got to be one of the cruelest jokes. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for about 4 years with 2 miscarriages. It has been a very painful road. But I am not giving up my Mom had me naturally at age 47 . Dont give up. Dreams do come true. I am using fertilaid currently. I read some wonderful things about it. I wish you the best.

  • Michelle

    Today is May 8th 2010 and my 40th birthday. I have been blessed with three children but I wanted you to know that your dreams do not have to end here. Many people are having children after 40 both naturally and adopted. Celebrate reaching this stage in your life and start thinking about how important this is to you. There are other options, other states, other ways to go about this. You know that old saying “Where there is a will, there is a way.” I wish you the best in whatever you decide. God Bless you and Have a wonderful birthday…Michelle

  • clare_1

    My therapist is 43 and is pregnant naturally (no fertility treatments) after multiple miscarriages. I turned 40 today May 12 and I am undergoing fertility treatments. Having a baby after 40 isn't a sure thing but it's not impossible

  • Tameka

    Hello beautiful 40 year old. I turned forty Oct 1st 2009. So I have been forty a little longer than you. You are so blessed to have friends who want to celebrate your life. I on the other hand do not have any of that. I am on the other side of what you think you want. I have three children a husband and I am miserable. I love my children however, the ability to build formative relationships has been my big issue. Enough about me though. You are fabulous and don't think anything less of yourself. You are strong enough to share your insecurities with the world yet humble enough reach out to others.

  • Tameka

    It will happen for you. My cousin in law is 45 and expecting. Keep your stress levels down anyway you can.

  • Tameka

    Hello beautiful 40 year old. I turned forty Oct 1st 2009. So I have been forty a little longer than you. You are so blessed to have friends who want to celebrate your life. I on the other hand do not have any of that. I am on the other side of what you think you want. I have three children a husband and I am miserable. I love my children however, the ability to build formative relationships has been my big issue. Enough about me though. You are fabulous and don’t think anything less of yourself. You are strong enough to share your insecurities with the world yet humble enough reach out to others.

  • Tameka

    It will happen for you. My cousin in law is 45 and expecting. Keep your stress levels down anyway you can.

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