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I just turned 40. I am a Korean American living in the motherland and well, I’m having mixed feelings. Friends urged me to have a birthday party but I was too down about turning 40 to go through with it, though I’ll meet a few friends for the occasion.

They say 40 is the new 30, but I’m not feeling it. I am single with no children, a few misses in the marriage category, and for the most part unlucky in love. They say 40 is when you realize that life starts to go down, but that depression eases after mid-life crisis peaks at 43.

Sorry for the depressing talk.

Who would think of all people…me would be turning 40 without children. Not only was I raised to be a mother; I love children and that was my dream in life. A little background….The summer before I entered the 5th grade my parents became foster parents for infants. As a result I became a foster sister helping to raise over 300 babies from near birth to adoptions (usually between 3 and 6 months old).

I have been to fertility doctors and there is nothing wrong with me…I just can’t get or stay pregnant. Plus, I am a lesbian so I don’t get pregnant naturally and must go through a procedure to try. I am turning 40 on all days this year…..Mother’s day!!!! So, not only is it the worst day of the year…but it is my friggn birthday….

Everyone one wants to make a big deal out of me turning the Big 40….I could care less…..I would rather the day go by unnoticed….and when I say I want to skip it …. I am being selfish for not allowing people to celebrate my life and their love for me. How can I celebrate my life and be happy with my ultimate dream of being a mother will have basically ended on 5-9-2010.

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Turning 40 next year. I look 26 but I feel 40! I have just started working out so I look even younger. I don’t know what it is, but I do not like loud sounds, people, events, music. I like to spend time alone or with family. I am only concerned with me. I know it sound crazy, it may be a phase, but I love my time alone. When I was in my 30’s I could not get enough of the party, on the go, now I am home by 9:00pm. When will the fun hit me again?

I am turning 40 tomorrow and I am 17 weeks pregnant and all I keep thinking about is if I will see my daughters 40th birthday ( she will be 1 on Tuesday).

I never had an issue of getting older. Now all I want to do is cry when I look at myself in the mirror. I never thought a number would be so hard. I will be going to Disney tomorrow with my wonderful family and then planning my daughters very special birthday.

I hope this gets better.

I think it is very telling that there is a site started just two years ago called ‘turning40′. I think our generation is  “insistent”, in some ways, of not having the turning 40 stigma. I mean didn’t MTV just celebrate an anniversary?

I turn 40 in 5 days and I asked a bunch of people for a list of all the things I should do in the next 5 days that would be socially unacceptable for me to do after I turn 40. The only thing that came up was “take dirty pictures”.

I am very happy with how my life has turned out. However, one of my goals in life was to reach that point…. no matter WHERE I was in life at any given time. That’s all we all really want is to just be happy regardless of circumstances.

The only thing I am NOT happy with is my weight. I lift heavy weights alot so I have sort of a football player look to me, but, I do carry more fat than I want. But on the other hand, I think, WHY DO I CARE? I have the most amazing wife in the world, awesome kids, and a fun life. Why do I care if I’m ’sexy’? BFD! Right? Now I just have to convince myself of that.